plays a crucial role when there is one who is addicted to drugs or alcohol in the group. Each member of the family plays a role that impacts the individual who is addicted and it is important to recognize who plays what part in the situation.
There are roughly six roles that family members typically fill.
- The addict
The one with the addiction Is at the center. The “world” revolves around them resulting in the one addicted to becoming the center of attention. Others in the family take on the different roles to complete the balance after the problem has been introduced.
- The Hero
The hero feels compelled to make everyone in the family look good. Ultimately ignoring the problem at hand and present everything in a positive manner as the roles in the family do not exist.
Underlying feelings: fear, guilt, and shame.
- The Mascot
The mascot’s role is that of a jester. Often this one will make inappropriate jokes about those who are involved. While it is said that “laughter is the best medicine” it is often harmful humor, which sometimes hinders addiction recovery.
Underlying feelings: embarrassment, Shame, and anger.
- The Lost Child
The lost child is the quiet one of the group often and will never mention drugs or alcohol nor recovery. Quiet and reserved, they are careful to not make problems. The lost child gives up self-needs and avoids any efforts that could lead to conversing about the underlying roles.
Underlying feelings: guilt, loneliness, neglect, anger.
- The Scapegoat
The Scapegoat acts out in front of others. This one will rebel, make noise, and divert attention from the person who is addicted and their need for help in addiction recovery. They cover or draw attention away from the real problem.
Underlying feelings: shame, guilt, and emptiness.
- The Caretaker
The caretaker makes the other roles possible. They attempt to keep everyone happy and the family in balance, void of the issue. Excuses are made for all behaviors and actions, and will never mention addiction recovery or getting help.
Underlying feelings: inadequacy, fear, and helplessness.
Sadly, these roles can lead to codependency within the family not allowing one to obtain self-orientation. The family is an important part of everyone’s life and when a member of the family falls short to drug and alcohol addiction, it is the other members who can be there to help the one addicted recover.
